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With the holiday season coming to a quick close and the new year breathing down our necks,
it seems like a good time to think about the tradition of...
Okay, now that that is out of our system.
I don't do "New Year's Resolutions".
It just seems to be a practice in futility.
As a kid it was something my family would use as a challenge to one another
to see who was going to be the one to actually succeed.
As an adult it has become a way to set yourself up for failure
or to align yourself with your crowd.
This year instead of the empty promises of these annual resolutions,
I am going to make goals.
While the splitting of hairs allows for the naysayer to chime in with,
"Aren't they the same animal in a different coat?"
I offer this rebuttal,
The terms resolution and goal instill different emotive responses for the individual.
Personally, I hear...
"I am resolving to quit smoking this year."
and what I think is...
"I have 300+ days, if I can do it great. If I can't, I'll try again next year."
On the other hand, when I hear someone set a goal...
"By January 30th, I will have begun an active plan for quitting smoking."
and what I think is...
"I have 30 days to find and start a smoking cessation program."
The resolution always sounds kind of wishy washy to me, while the goal feels like a committment.
Whether you believe in resolutions, or setting goals, or letting the whole thing slide on by it is important to
spend the time thinking of ways to set the steps for success and prepare yourself for what
it all means to you.
Thanks for reading.
Beauty and the Beast (1991)
Beauty and the Beast (2017)
Are you a Beauty and the Beast OG or are you a Beauty and the Beast In?
Back in 1991 when Disney released the animated film "Beauty and the Beast".
The film became an unbelievable success. Young girls and boys everywhere were beside themselves
with the joy of being a 'guest' in an enchanted castle with a 'monster' for a master.
(PERSONAL VIEW: This movie was cute when I was younger (16), but my older sister (24)
drove me crazy with this movie (and not just this one,. Right sis?) once it was released onto VHS.
I haven't watched this movie since 2001 and you can't make me now.)
Paige O'Hara .......... Belle
Robby Benson .......... Beast
Richard White .......... Gaston
Jerry Orbach .......... Lumiere
David Ogden Stiers .......... Cogsworth
Angela Lansbury ........... Mrs. Potts
Bradley Pierce ........... Chip
Rex Everhart .......... Maurice
Jesse Corti .......... Le Fou
"Gaston" by Richard White, Jesse Corti and Chorus
"Be Our Guest" by Jerry Orbach, Angela Lansbury and Chorus
"Something There" by Angela Lansbury, Brian Ogden Stiers, Jerry Orbach, Paige O'Hara and Robby Benson
"The Mob Song" by Cast and Chorus
"Beauty and the Beast" by Angela Lansbury
My favorite song and performance
by Angela Lansbury.
What a magical feel she has to her.
Disney's latest offering (available for home viewing) is Beauty and the Beast.
Released in theatres on March 17, 2017 (US release)
Released for home viewing on June 6, 2017
Released for online viewing (Netflix) on September 19, 2017
Much to my aforementioned sister's chagrin, this version is my personal favorite.
I prefer the songs in the live version
(with the exception of Beauty and the Beast -
sorry, Ms. Thompson & Ms. McDonald, no offense).
Emma Watson .......... Belle
Dan Stevens .......... Beast
Luke Evans .......... Gaston
Ewan McGregor .......... Lumiere
Ian McKellen.......... Cogsworth
Emma Thompson .......... Mrs. Potts
Nathan Mack .......... Chip
Kevin Kline .......... Maurice
Josh Gad .......... Le Fou
Gaston" by Luke Evans, Josh Gad, Ensemble
"Be Our Guest" by Ewan McGregor, Emma Thompson, Gugu Mbatha-Raw, Ian McKellen
"Something There" by Emma Watson, Dan Stevens, Emma Thompson, Nathan Mack, Ian McKellen, Ewan McGregor, Gugu Mbatha-Raw
"The Mob Song" by Cast and Ensemble
"Beauty and the Beast" by Emma Thompson
"How Does a Moment Last Forever" by Kevin Kline
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Both controversies are based on very narrowed and scared views.
Away we go...
"The Gay Moment" in the movie. The scene they are speaking about
is at the end of the movie during the reel when
Le Fou and Stanley get fumbled up and end up dancing with one another.
Do you think Condon (director) set this up for a nod to the LGBTQ+ community?
Why or why not?
**Funny enough, they didn't have a problem with Stanley at the castle
after Madame de Garderobe was through with him and his friends.*
And the other controversy...
Though not much of a controversy, it was a repeat from the first one.
Belle was a sufferer of Stockholm Syndrome.
When Dr. Frank Ochberg, MD, the psychiatrist who coined the phrase was interviewed about his views of Belle's
succumbing to the Beast's tyranny he said, in an interview on Yahoo,
Belle doesn't exhibits the same trauma symptoms of other prisoners
because she does not go through a period of feeling she is going to die,
she does not become emotionally dependent on Beast/Adam, and
she is never in fear for her life in Beast's presence.
What team you on?
No idea what to talk about today, so I checked the news and found some
stupid shit to talk about. Let me know what you think...
"At last! What a joyous, historic day for America, the LGBT community, individual families, the institution of marriage and the fight for equality. I used to think that I would not see this day in my lifetime. In recent years, however, it’s been clear that personal hearts and minds, and the courts, were headed in this direction. Marriage is about love, commitment, and family. Couples who make that commitment deserve to be respected under law, with the full legal protections that accompany a marriage license. Finally, they are!" - Former Houston Mayor Annise Parker (Texas - D - 2010-2016)
So for the Governor and the people who support their hate-filled opinions, may you crotches be infested by the fleas of a thousand camels and your arms be too short to scratch.
For Sarah Kate Ellis, GLAAD President, and those fighting for the simple right to take care of their families, fight the good fight and never lose hope.
Question 1 of 2...
What does World AIDS Day mean?
WHO (World Health Organization, link here) says this years theme is "Everybody Counts" which is explained in a release from Dr Tedros Adhanom Ghebreyesus, WHO-Director General (link). If you read the release, Dr Ghebreyesus states (simply put) that though we have come a long way on the education and treatment of HIV/AIDS, we are still missing a large portion of those infected.
Wiki reports there are 36.7 million people living with HIV and Dr. Ghebreyesus says in his release that 21 million people are receiving treatment. While there are approximately still 29 to 47 million people worldwide who lose their life every year to this monstrous disease. Now, I don't know about you, but I am discombobulated by these numbers. Provided these numbers are true (or even close) this means there are approximately 16 million people who are infected by HIV and are not receiving treatment. Why? How come these people aren't getting help? I know all the bureaucratic reasons for why they aren't being treated, but its unacceptable.
What does it mean to me?
However, I never had anyone in my life, prior to the last two years, who had ever come into such intimate contact. Over the last two years, I have learned about its history and its treatment. I have also learned about the emotional toll it takes on family, friends, and partners, as well as the patient themselves. So my views about HIV/AIDS are three points...
1. No one (even my worst enemy) should have to fight for their life in such a way as to have to decide between having medicine to treat or food to eat.
2. The demise of this disease is possible, we just have to get past the bureaucracy and pharmaceutical money machines and get back to taking care of our people. And,...
3. If your pos, I will love you and protect you the best way I can. I will do the right thing and fight for education, fight for funding, fight for research and fight for treatments because even if you are the biggest douchebag on the planet (like the ones that go out to infect others over emotional issues) you don't deserve to have to do this alone, or at all.
I know it's the end of the day, but sometimes when you share deep enough timelines don't matter.
Protect yourself and those you love.
Remember those who have lost the war with HIV/AIDS and
never forget those who are still fighting in the trenches.
Blessed Monday night!
The first Transgender Day of Remembrance was November 20, 1999.
It was originally a web-based project (headed by Gwendolyn Ann Smith) begun as a way to memorialize the
murder of a transgender woman named Rita Hester from Allston, MA.
November 20th will forever be the day we mourn the trans people we've lost and advocate on behalf of the living.
This year marked the first time in 5 years I missed a vigil for transgender murder victims. This is also the first vigil since I came forward about my transitioning. So, as you can imagine I feel like a giant shit because I couldn't be with the rest of my community honoring those whose lights were extinguished. Though the flu kept me in my bed, I did still light a candle and read from the list of names. I also had the opportunity to have quiet time to think about what it all meant to me as a transman. Here's what I've come up with...
In 2012, I went to my first Transgender Day of Remembrance Vigil. I remember hiding in plain sight and pretending I didn't feel anything more than sympathy for the families who lost their loved ones to violence or self-infliction. I also remember being scared to think what might happen if I ever let my inner feelings out. I was so worried if I were to start dressing, acting and behaving like a man someone would do to me like someone did to the extensive list of people whose names were read that year. So, I ran and hid who I was. I pretended I'm just a normal, heterosexual woman living my normal life with my normal, heterosexual husband and there is nothing "abnormal" or "unusual" about me.
The few next years, I continued to go to the Remembrance vigils convincing myself I was only going because it was the right thing to do by showing support to those who lost their families. Again, hiding behind my heterosexual husband and lifestyle.
Around April 2016, when my husband had his brush with death and we spent almost 4 months in the hospital I had the opportunity to dig into myself and really find out what was important. I found some books to read and some pamphlets to help me figure out what I was feeling. When I came to the realization my issue was I wasn't living my true life. I wasn't being my true me. While my husband was laid up in the hospital I found the nerve to discuss my dysphoria, my emotional issues and my psychological issues with living in my AFAB body. His main line was he was all for it so long as I was happy and wasn't looking to leave him. (Funny how that story some what changes.)
Come Day of Remembrance 2016, I had just become part of an organization which is active in the LGBT community and they were invited to the vigil in another town. Well, I jumped at the opportunity to go. This would be my first vigil as a member of this organization and as a transman (even if that was only in my mind). Let me tell you, that vigil hit me hard. I found as the names were read and the candles were lit, each felt like a knife slicing across my heart. I listened to the stories, poems and songs of the performers and speakers as they each opened their souls and bared the most intimate parts of themselves. I could feel my heart breaking and healing with the love from the other attendees in the room, but not just. I could also feel my true self coming to the surface. He was knocking all I had to do was let him in. That is what happened the next morning.
This year (as I said), I had other things to deal with, but it did not stop me from allowing myself the opportunity to remember those who have lost the fight either through an external source or due to their own hand.
This year is the year I stand up as a transman and I promise to make a difference for my brothers or sisters.
They’re brothers and sisters and sons and daughters, but we’re targeted disproportionately.
With no mention to any of the individuals who have taken their life in this time period.
Visit the Milwaukee LGBT Community Center online @
Donate to their success @ https://www.razoo.com/organization/Milwaukeelgbt-Communitycenter
If you find yourself in Beloit today the First Congregational Church on 801 Bushnell St is hosting and Inclusive Thanksgiving Dinner Today from 12:30 to 4:30. Hosted by the Wonderful people at Yellow Brick Road Organization.
If you can't make it there and you find yourself in need of some food and warmth, get a link to me on Facebook. Me and my family would be happy to have you at our table.
Blessings of a safe and happy day to all!!
I have spent quite a few years writing short stories that never quite fit into the 'normal' genre. When I came across the different erotica genres I was overjoyed. I had found my writing family. I hope that everyone enjoys what I've written. Please feel free to send me a comment/suggestion good/bad/indifferent. I appreciate all feedback! Bright Blessings!